Section 1: Breaking up
1. The boy must understand that at one point in the relationship you liked him so that you are not labeled as a slut/whore.
2. Be sad but don't hang up on it, two days max.
3. If it happened it happened, do not go back and throw yourself at your ex because you will seem desperate and will be used.
Exception: If you think that the relationship really shouldn't have ended send him a heartfelt letter or email that says you want to talk about it. DO NOT TALK ABOUT IT VIA INTERNET! You are more brave and meaner online than in person, you say things you will regret.
4. Avoid going out with someone else for at least a week if you are the dumpee. Some guys are low enough to take the rebound and use you while you are sensitive. Those relationships are meaningless. It is also polite to wait a week post dump if you are the dumper.
Exception: If you dumped your boyfriend because you were more into someone else you can go out with them, although it is more respectful to your ex to wait a week.
5. If you like one of your ex's friends talk to your ex and make it clear that you really like that friend and he isn't just part of your revenge plot. Unless you talk to your ex first he will start to discourage his friend of your relationship and it will be a "it's not you it's me" waiting to happen.
6. Stay on good terms with all your ex's. Guys are connected in guyitude, they will spread the word and you won't have a date until you graduate.
Exception: If the guy seriously hurt you (physically or mentally) restraining orders also work well, don't put yourself in a situation where you would fight, avoid and ignore.
2. Be sad but don't hang up on it, two days max.
3. If it happened it happened, do not go back and throw yourself at your ex because you will seem desperate and will be used.
Exception: If you think that the relationship really shouldn't have ended send him a heartfelt letter or email that says you want to talk about it. DO NOT TALK ABOUT IT VIA INTERNET! You are more brave and meaner online than in person, you say things you will regret.
4. Avoid going out with someone else for at least a week if you are the dumpee. Some guys are low enough to take the rebound and use you while you are sensitive. Those relationships are meaningless. It is also polite to wait a week post dump if you are the dumper.
Exception: If you dumped your boyfriend because you were more into someone else you can go out with them, although it is more respectful to your ex to wait a week.
5. If you like one of your ex's friends talk to your ex and make it clear that you really like that friend and he isn't just part of your revenge plot. Unless you talk to your ex first he will start to discourage his friend of your relationship and it will be a "it's not you it's me" waiting to happen.
6. Stay on good terms with all your ex's. Guys are connected in guyitude, they will spread the word and you won't have a date until you graduate.
Exception: If the guy seriously hurt you (physically or mentally) restraining orders also work well, don't put yourself in a situation where you would fight, avoid and ignore.
After the Break up
A lot of the time, when two people break up, one will say "lets go back to being friends". (usually thats the dumper) It is best if you are friends with someone before you start to date, but it is different afterwards. No matter how mutual the break up, it will always be weird around your ex. Just remember:
1.Always be polite around them. Even if they totally stamped out your heart and left you crying at the restaurant. You will look much better for it if you can put on a strong face and be nice. Others will also respect you more for it.
2.Avoidance is natural, but don't go too far. After a break up, you will want to spare yourself the awkwardness by staying away from your ex, its normal. But if you see him in a public setting, or at school or just by chance, don't run and hide. You don't have to seek out their company, but don't make a point of staying away from them either. Eventually you will build yourself back up so it isn't as bad around them.
3. Mutual friends can be tricky, especially if it was a bad break up. If you want to hang out with someone who is friends with your ex. be careful If you talk about it use "I feel" statements. For example: "I felt like he was someone I didn't know any more". Don't say mean or bad things about them, it will just hurt your friendship.
1.Always be polite around them. Even if they totally stamped out your heart and left you crying at the restaurant. You will look much better for it if you can put on a strong face and be nice. Others will also respect you more for it.
2.Avoidance is natural, but don't go too far. After a break up, you will want to spare yourself the awkwardness by staying away from your ex, its normal. But if you see him in a public setting, or at school or just by chance, don't run and hide. You don't have to seek out their company, but don't make a point of staying away from them either. Eventually you will build yourself back up so it isn't as bad around them.
3. Mutual friends can be tricky, especially if it was a bad break up. If you want to hang out with someone who is friends with your ex. be careful If you talk about it use "I feel" statements. For example: "I felt like he was someone I didn't know any more". Don't say mean or bad things about them, it will just hurt your friendship.